The most common accusation between student/teacher, friends, spouses, and perhaps in any relationship is, “You’re not listening to me!” Sound expert, Julian Treasure, believes that listening creates understanding. He speaks about listening consciously to live fully. He laments that listening is not taught in schools, then gives us 5 way we can listen better.
I like his idea of “savoring” – that is, enjoying the rhythm and melody in mundane sounds like those in your laundry room or kitchen. Questions: We’re losing our listening, Treasure says. Do you agree? How much time do you spend listening? Enter your thoughts in the comments section below.
I loved this post on “Listening”. True that it is not taught at school and how it is a very important aspect in any relationship. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
Eloquent Mind
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You are welcome, Eloquent Mind. In my work as a speech-language pathologist, I realized some years ago that listening is not taught…in schools and in most homes. Since then, I focus much of my therapy on developing listening skills and have found that an improvement in listening often results in an improvement in other areas of language.
I agree that we don’t “listen.” Often we are just formulating our responses. I find it difficult to listen often due to ambient and background noise. As a teacher I find background noise very distracting. He has some very good suggestions.
You are right on target with the point that we spend so much time formulating our replies that we “forget” to listen to what the speaker is saying. Regarding your difficulty with background noise, perhaps if you practice the “Mixer” exercise Julian Treasure suggested, that might help with tolerating noise better. Let me know how it works out if you do try.
I listen to everything. But when my husband talks, I sometimes turn off because I’ve heard it all before. I shouldn’t do that. You’ve shown me why. http://bit.ly/JBC6am
Listening is a very important aspect in relationship building. I’m pleased to know you have come to this conclusion regarding your husband. I wish you great success in your adventures in communication. Thanks for stopping by, Francene.